when making the empty game object i cant scale it or move it without it disappearing every time i click on it.
You cant click on empty game objects. There is nothing to click on. You Have to click on the hierarchy.
If you want to move it then you have to be careful to click on the handles as if you miss it will deselect it.
You can scale it but unless you have a specific reason to its not going to look like anything as again there is nothing but the coordinate space (i.e. transform) to scale.
i just went back and realised i made a stupid mistake i didnt add anything to the game object where i can adjust the size anyway thanks for your help